One Thing At A Time…

The cause of most of my life’s emotional hardships, struggles and probably also stress has been the following two things:

  1. The pursuit of perfection.
  2. Trying to improve too many areas of my life at the same time.

What’s potentially important to note is I think that pursuing perfection is ‘wrong’. It’s wrong thinking. It’s bad motivation. Most of all, it’s a waste of time… Continue reading

Why Is Leadership So Hard…?

If you’re a leader, or a parent, or anyone responsible for somebody else, I’d expect a resounding “amen” with this following statement… To get someone to do something, or behave a certain way, or believe in themselves, etc, etc, you can’t just say it once and they’ve got it!

Don’t get me wrong, there’s a rare number of loyal, attentive individuals who’ll listen and take it away with them, but I don’t even think they get it, I think they probably just try harder to do so and don’t particularly admit to not getting it. No offence if you’re one of those individuals, it’s just the truth as I see it.

Why do I say this? There goes that question again, as ever. But the reason is that recently I’ve been delving in to the study of psychology and neurology, more so the neurology side, the study of the brain. A highly interesting piece of knowledge came my way in the form of this following statement…
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Why I Don’t Use A Bookmark…

I thought I’d just share a quick thought on why I don’t use bookmarks when reading…

The purpose of a bookmark is so you know where you finished up reading so you can come back to the same place, right? Have you ever thought about the unproductive excuse that this gives you?
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Understanding People…

If there’s one definite thing I’ve figured about understanding people, it’s that you’ve first got to understand yourself. It’s like a lot of other things on the subject of leadership…

  • To lead others, you’ve got to lead yourself.
  • To be trusted, you’ve got to trust.
  • For others to be honest with you, you’ve got to be honest with them.
  • Other people will be vulnerable with you if you allow yourself some vulnerability with them.
  • To understand other people, you must understand yourself!

What I’m basically saying is that it starts with you and ends with other people. World culture seems to teach the opposite of that – to start with other people and then concentrate on yourself. Whether that be concentrating on a celebrity’s image and trying to emulate it, or finding someone you want something from and then working your way to getting it. The greatest things don’t particularly work that way, especially in leadership. Start with you and give to others. Continue reading

Be Accountable…

I was privileged to invest some time in to some leadership academy students a little while back and was given the subject of ‘How to Think Like a Leader’. I came up with 13 points on thinking like a leader, and thought I’d share them with you one by one as individual posts.

Here is number two: Be Accountable

Originally I didn’t teach this session with the thought of communication attached, but I think it’s a massive part of it! Being accountable to PEOPLE needs good communication. That’s essential!

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Lead Yourself…

I was privileged to invest some time in to some leadership academy students a little while back and was given the subject of ‘How to Think Like a Leader’. I came up with 13 points on thinking like a leader, and thought I’d share them with you one by one as individual posts.

Here is number one: Lead Yourself

Are you ready for a strong, direct statement? I hope so, because it’s coming anyway… If you can’t lead yourself well, forget about leading others!

Essentially, trying to get others to do something that you’re either intentionally limiting yourself from doing or aren’t willing to do yourself, is being a hypocrite. Harsh, maybe? But that’s the truth as I see it. I’m not talking about something that isn’t your gift – I’m talking about going first. Continue reading

Don’t be afraid to walk away…

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This doesn’t have much to do with leadership, but I reckon there’s a lot you could relate it to, so just thought I’d share…

I went down to my local gym about four weeks ago and got a great offer on a membership. Thankfully I didn’t take it, because a few days later I had a crash on my motorbike and thought it best to avoid the gym for a little while! Today I went back to sign up for a membership and the cost had gone up – quite dramatically. But I didn’t do what most people would have in that situation… Continue reading

The Power of Your Influence…

I have an influencer by the name of Tony Harrington. He’s the associate leader of Today’s Community Church, a great friend to me and it just happens that I also share an office with him. He’s a very wise, experienced man of God – but one main distinction is his character, an unmissable, unforgettable character.

People, many people, have commented on how similar to Tony I’ve become over the time that I’ve spent with him. He LOVES this and so he should do, because it shows that his influence is effective (or that I’m easily influenced, but I’d hope not).

There are many things that I’m thankful for having imitated in Tony and many other things that people aren’t thankful for, because it’s like having two of us around! Both great and grungy traits are duplicated, because it’s hard to separate someone’s influence in to your life.

(I’ve asked his permission to share this.)
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